“Don’t worry that children never listen to you; worry that they are always watching you.” – Robert Fulghum
I have a wonderful mom. She is the reason I am the person I am. But to be completely honest, I don’t remember once piece of advice she gave me growing up. I’m certain she gave me some. She might have even put a lot of time and effort into coming up with this advice. I remember none of it.
I do remember what she did. I remember her cutting the grass, refinishing furniture, building a fence, moving railroad ties, cooking, cleaning, planting flowers, running, and a ton of other things. She did things for herself. She did not wait for others to do it. What I remember is her being tough and self assured. I’m guessing most of the time she didn’t feel that way but that is how I remember her.
I try to remember that Pnut and Little Dude are watching what I do. They are going to learn from what I do not what I say. That is one reason I think it is so important to take time for myself and to take care of myself. I want them to do the same when they grow up.
This weekend Brian and his dad took the kids out one morning. I went for a wonderful 6 mile run. I hope pnut and LD remember special time with dad, but I also hope they remember that mommy was out running. I hope Pnut remembers that mommy was strong and did things for herself. More than anything, I want her to grow into a strong woman. I want her to depend on herself and to be confident she can do anything she wants to do.
My children are watching. I need to be the best me I can be.